The Leadership Ceiling

Every leader creates a leadership ceiling.

Whether it’s...

• the CEO of a $100 Billion corporation holding back thousands of employees through a command and control culture, 
• the director of a small non-profit, who keeps the organization from achieving a broader vision,
• an orchestra conductor who squelches the passion of talented musicians, 
• a team leader squelching creativity, 

Every leader creates a leadership ceiling, above which the organization and its people cannot rise. There are high ceilings and low ceilings, but there’s always a ceiling.

• It may be a “people” ceiling that limits the ability of the people within the organization to feel safe, empowered, and valued.
• It may be a “process” ceiling that keeps the organization from collaborating and performing at its peak. 
• Or it may be a “purpose” ceiling that limits the aspirations the organization hopes to accomplish.

For those of us who aren’t at the top of the power hierarchy, when the leadership ceiling is high, life is great. We find the freedom and support to bring our whole selves to our work, to innovate, collaborate, and implement great new solutions, and to participate in a purpose that is beyond what any of us can accomplish as individuals.

But when the ceiling is lower than we want it to be, the going gets rough. And we need to make choices.

When the leadership ceiling we work under is too low, we have 3 choices:

A. We can choose to work ABOVE the leadership ceiling. I love to think big and work boldly, so  this is my default choice. It’s what I do most frequently. It is how I have spent many years of my career.

And it always fails. 

When you work above the leadership ceiling, you may feel successful in the short term, but over time you’ll notice that you keep hitting the same barriers, progress you’ve already made deteriorates, and early optimism turns to debilitating cynicism.

B. We can choose to work BENEATH the leadership ceiling, BIDING our time. For many of us, in many situations, this is the best choice—the people directing us and paying our salaries typically expect us to work beneath their leadership ceiling. Or we can BAIL and leave the organization.

Since everyone, by definitions, works beneath leadership ceilings, let’s recognize that and get intentional about how we bring our full selves to that space. And let’s develop our judgement about when it’s time to BAIL and pursue our dreams under more enlightened leaders.

C. We can choose to try to CHANGE the Ceiling. This path is not for everyone. And it’s not for every situation. But for some people in some situations, this is the path to the greatest impact, success, and satisfaction.

Changing a leadership ceiling is not for the faint of heart. It requires intention, discipline, intuition, creativity, and perseverance. But when we make it work, we change the world.

On Personal Responsibility

A few years ago, in a work session on the future of healthcare, a woman somewhat older than me said something that has haunted my thoughts ever since. "My generation was the last that could be accidentally healthy."

A hundred years ago, a person could shop without looking at the ingredients, ignore their diet, never go to the gym, and still avoid most toxins, maintain a healthy weight, and get good exercise. The farm-to-table food system, social conventions, and the built environment conspired to help people be healthy without really trying. Of course, they were more likely to die of the flu, infections, or childbirth complications, but for many adults, it was quite possible to be accidentally healthy.

No longer.

Now, modern commercial agriculture, ubiquitous cheap processed food, and suburban sprawl make it harder than ever to be healthy. And at this time when it's harder than ever for an individual to maintain good health, a constant stream of messages tells us that each individual must "take responsibility" for their own health.

I see a similar dynamic playing out in the defining, existential, challenge of our time: climate change. Before the industrial revolution, an individual could accidentally have a negligible carbon footprint.

No longer.

Some of the same forces that make accidental health impossible in industrially developed societies also make accidental environmental responsibility impossible. The food available to me, the expectations my neighbors and employer place on me, and the built environment conspire to make my individual carbon foot print a substantive contributor to global catastrophe.

And now that it's extremely difficult for me to have a low carbon footprint, a constant stream of messages tells me I need to change my personal consumption patterns and my transportation habits in order to fulfill my personal responsibility to the planet.

One more parallel, this time from the perspective of an employee in a large company. If I worked in a small, pre-industrial job of some kind--small family farmer, carpenter, baker, and I wanted to be more productive, I could generally become more productive by working harder, longer, and smarter. I could improve my own performance and productivity in some pretty straight-forward ways.

No longer.

Now, even though I am held personally accountable for my performance at work, it can be difficult or impossible for me to produce improved results on my own. The corporate structure, processes, and norms conspire to prevent me from producing results on my own. One group ignores me; another constrains me; another shuts down my progress entirely. And yet, now that it's harder than ever for me to improve, I'm held accountable for my personal performance--my personal success or failure to produce tangible outcomes.

In all three examples--health, climate change, employment, I am told to take personal responsibility for results in an environment that overwhelmingly impedes my ability to produce those results.

This leaves me three choice, in ascending order of impact:

1. Abdicate responsibility. It's too hard to change myself, and it's impossible to change the world, so I'll just blame it all on the world around me and go on my merry way. This is the easy, "accidental" approach.

It's too hard to make myself healthy, and we're all going to die eventually anyway, so hand me the remote control and a frozen pizza. Someday someone will invent better medications to keep me healthy, Congress or scientists will solve climate change, and the leaders at my company will finally see the light and make things better--I just need to hold on until retirement and hope things are better for my children and grandchildren.

Impact of this approach on my health, the health of my planet, and the health of my company: zero to negative. But it's easy and often less stressful, particularly if I can really convince myself to ignore the scary parts.

2. Take personal responsibility for my own behaviors. I can't change the world, but I can change me. I'm going to check ingredients, grow a garden, bike to work, replace my incandescent light bulbs, install solar panels, and produce stellar deliverables at work that often don't produce the desired results because of the failure of the rest of the organization, but at least I did my part.

Impact of this approach on my health is probably pretty good, provided I can sustain it over the long haul, though most likely I'll do this for a while and then my discipline will falter and I'll be back where I was (welcome to yo yo dieting and failed New Year's resolutions).

Impact on the health of the planet: Negligible if I'm the only one doing it. If many, many others do the same, the impact is powerful and an important contributor to turning things around and saving the planet. And if hundreds of millions of individuals do this, starting now, the earth will still warm enough to cause cataclysmic changes.

3. Take personal responsibility to change us--to change society, our infrastructure, our politics, our built environment, and our future together. If I can afford it, buying organic food and green power decreases the cost of both for others and contributes momentum to new infrastructures and economies. These are doable ways to take personal responsibility to change the underlying root causes--to make it easier for others to be accidentally healthy, green, and productive.

More examples:

Electoral politics: Voting is a way to take individual responsibility for changing the world. Even more powerfully, I can take personal responsibility to knock on doors, pressure my representatives, support progressive candidates, etc. These are individual actions aimed at change much larger than my own individual sphere.

Corporate culture: How might I take personal responsibility to change the culture of a multi-billion dollar organization? It's not easy, but it's possible. Corporate culture is big, amorphous, hard to change directly. But corporate culture is a function of corporate climate, and I can impact the climate in which I work. This may mean taking personal responsibility to do my part to create a climate of inclusion and equity--paying attention, speaking up, being an ally.

And I can change corporate culture by changing my definition of what it means to improve performance. Rather than simply trying to work differently myself, I can find ways to work together differently with those on my team, and even more powerfully, work together differently with people in other parts of the organization, so that together we envision the future, solve problems, and create meaningful outcomes for our customers and ourselves.

Impact on my own health, climate change, and the success of my company: short term it's negligible; long term it's a game changer, a world changer, the only way we will all get through this current mess to create a world in which our grandchildren have a chance of being healthy, safe, and productive, accidentally or not.

So here's where I'm landing on personal responsibility:

Taking personal responsibility for my own actions within my own sphere is:
Difficult--the world around me makes it impossible to be accidentally healthy, green, and productive
Helpful--there are things I can change about myself, within my own sphere, that are meaningful
Insufficient--Ultimately, the world is bigger than me. Lots of individuals making positive changes will move the dial meaningfully but won't get us where we need to be.

My personal responsibility is to take care of my own stuff, and to find ways to impact the big stuff. Community/societal/corporate change is where the power is. How might I take personal responsibility to contribute to, and change, the big stuff? The bad news is, there's no one easy answer. The good news is, there are many good answers, and when we as individuals do things together to change the big stuff, that's how big change happens.

"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has." --Margaret Mead

"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek." --Barack Obama

"Let us remember: One book, one pen, one child, and one teacher can change the world." --Malala Yousafzai

Showing Up & Hoping

Ultimately, I need to do 2 things. And those 2 things are intertwined:

I need to show up, and I need to nurture the spark of hope.

The only sure way to ensure failure is to stop trying. The important part of trying isn't how hard I try or how good I am at it--the important part of trying is to to keep showing up. Even when I don't see progress, even when it doesn't feel successful, even when I feel small and powerless and foolish, I need to keep showing up.

I show up at work when I go in on Monday morning even when I feel like a useless bureaucrat in a faceless machine. I show up when I keep talking about empathy and humility, even when budgets and policies and processes conspire year after year to attend only to process metrics and things that can be tightly quantified, and when resistance to change seems immovable.

I show up at home when I keep the communication lines open with my family, even when we're angry with each other. And I show up when I make time for personal connections, even when there's something more "productive" to do. I show up when I stop talking long enough to listen.

I show up in the world when I canvas to get out the vote, even though I tremble at the thought of knocking on doors and talking with strangers. And I show up when I keep doing little things to decrease my carbon footprint, even though my little piece of the carbon footprint won't make or break the future. I show up in the world when I make music, even if it's not very good and I'm afraid of embarrassment.

When things are particularly hard--at work, and home, or in the world, and I temporarily lose hope, showing up keeps me in the game until hope returns. And it does more than that, because if I ever stop showing up, then hope's never coming back. Showing up is an invitation to hope--it's a way to hold out the possibility that hope will return.

None of us can be constantly hopeful. We all sometimes succumb to the brutal evidence that we're all going to hell in a hand basket. And yet…

Hope is what makes the better world possible. If we keep the vision of the better place alive, we can find our way there. The timing may be lousy--we all want the better place sooner. And there is so much pain in the time between the dark present and the bright future. But the long run counts. In the long run, we'll get there.

In the short term, let's keep showing up.

10 Musical Design Methods

Why is there so little music in the world of design?

Design Thinking methods often use drawing and theater, but it seems we have barely scratched the surface when it comes to music. Our toolbox is filled arts-based methods: 

• we draw pictures of emotions to help us empathize with users
• we sketch storyboards to prototype new experiences
• we act out the current experience to identify new opportunities
• we create skits to rapidly prototype the future. 

But too often our design sessions are devoid of one the most powerful forms of creative expression.

In this essay, I'm asking the question, "How might we use music to support design thinking?"

I'll lay out 10 possibilities, some of which I've tried and some that are just rough ideas. I would love it if you would comment on any of these you've used yourself, how it's going, and any advice you have for other practitioners. Even better, share new methods not on my short list here. In future blogs, I'll try spelling out each method in a little more detail.

Some of these methods require some musical skills, but most don't. We are constantly telling people they don't need to know how to draw in order to create a concept poster or storyboard or prototype. The same is true with music.

So here goes, in no particular order:

Musical Provocations

Play different musical provocations, and for each one, participants design a different experience. This is similar to the exercise, "if we were Nike, Apple, Ford, what would we do?" Imagine a group trying to design a new in-store retail experience. First play, the "Rocky" theme and ask participants to describe the in-store experience that matches the music. Then play, "Hello, Dolly" and have them describe an in-store experience that matches this. Now play the Beatles' "Michelle" and have them describe a third in-store experience.

The Sound of Our Strategy

"What does our strategy (or future product or experience) sound like?" Have participants design concept posters to show the strategy, and include on the poster the title of the theme song that conveys the spirit of the strategy. Then, when each poster is introduced, play the theme song.

Drum Circle

Everyone gets something to hit (or use clapping, snapping fingers, etc.). Divide them into parts. Then, one part at a time, build a complex group sound. You can create a pattern like a drum circle, or you can create more of a sound painting, e.g., creating the sound of a thunder storm. Use this to ease tension, help the group coalesce, and/or to explore what it means to work together as a group.

Centering Rhythm

Have everyone in the group find an object they can use as a drum--could be an actual drum, a chair, their chest, a coffee mug--anything they can hit to make a sound. When each individual has a "drum," tell the group to start hitting their drums with each person choosing their own steady beat of any tempo. This should result in a cacophony. Now tell them to listen to each other and adjust until the whole group is beating the same steady beat. Do this once, and discuss what it felt like and if there are any lessons about working as individuals in a group. Try doing the exercise 3-4 times over the course of a day-long session, and see if the group's collective beat is the same each time, or if it feels faster, slower, louder, softer. Are we learning anything about how we're working together? Try it with your eyes closed--do you coalesce more quickly? Why? Listen to see how many other "drums" you can identify. How does this change your participation?

Banjo Timer

As facilitators, we frequently have to get people to stop talking. But nobody likes to be cut off, either by the facilitator interrupting them saying, "time's up!" or with a timer buzzing at them. So simply tell them, you have 2 minutes. When your time is up, I'm going to start playing the banjo, and once I start playing, you'll have to stop, because no one will be able to hear you anymore." Do it in a light, fun way. As the speaker gets close to their time limit, slowly pick up the banjo and strap it on--by the time you have it on and ready to play, the speaker will usually have stopped. (This is a variation on the "hug" timer.)

Jingle

Write a "jingle" that pitches your idea. Pick a jingle from any commercial, and re-write the words to create a jingle that synthesizes the essence of your idea into a compact pitch. Then each group sings their jingle. Use this to help the group identify the essential core of their idea.

Synthesis Composition

Think of this as the musical equivalent of graphic recording. This method does require some actual musical talent, either on the part of the facilitator or someone the facilitator has recruited or hired. Over the course of an all-day or multi-day session, take notes about key themes, "aha's," struggles, and interactions. Build all of these into an original composition. It's easiest to do this by putting new lyrics to an existing song. If you use a melody people already know and distribute the lyrics, you can have the whole group sing along. With enough lead time, you can even put together an ensemble. I once presented an enterprise web strategy, complete with guiding principles, with a barbershop quartet singing "Coney Island Baby."

Pattern Interrupt

Sometimes we need to jolt people out of their typical work patterns to get them thinking and interacting differently. One of the fastest ways to do this is to sing a song. I once started a meeting with 75 lawyers, editors, and managers by playing my banjo and singing "Tis a Gift to Be Simple." I did this before we even did introductions, and when I finished singing, I said, "This is not going to be a typical meeting." It shook up the room in a really nice way, and opened them up to try new things.

Set the Mood

I feel like I should include this just for the sake of completeness (not that this list is in any way complete). When people are gathering, when they're doing an activity, when they're coming back from an activity, use music in the background to boost the energy, to sooth, to inspire. Be thoughtful about how you want to influence the energy in the room--you don't always want to pump the energy level up. It can be especially helpful to have something soothing ready to play during a break after a very intense exercise.

Sing the Current Experience

We often use drawings to describe what the current experience feels like--people tearing their hair out, or yawning, or getting hit by a truck. Why not do that with music? When thinking about the current experience, e.g., after reviewing results of ethnography, or after reading customer comments, synthesize what you've learned about what customers are experiencing by picking a song that sums it up, e.g., "Help! I need somebody!" or "I'm fixing a hole where the rain comes in," or "The Long and Winding Road."  Each group decides on a song, and then they play the song from their phone, or sing it, and explain why this reflects the current experience. Follow this with "The Sound of Our Strategy" above.

There you have it--10 design methods, some I've tried, some still waiting to be prototyped. What do you think? Which of these have you used, and how effective are they? What other ideas have you thought of or tried?

The Football Diet

I've improved on this original draft and given it its own web site. Check out the new and improved version at www.thefootballdiet.us

Summary

BOOM! I feel better than I have since John Madden was watching Joe Montana run 2 minute drills to win Super Bowls. After gaining and losing weight for years, tearing up the middle of the field without making any real progress, I invented the Football Diet.

I used it to lose 20 pounds and maintain a healthy weight for several years. You won't mistake me for a professional athlete, and an actual football player probably wouldn't use it, but the Football Diet helps me look and feel better.

To design the Football Diet, I used a combination of behavioral science, personal experience, and tailgating creativity. It's been helpful to me, and if it's helpful to you I'd love to hear about it.

The Football Diet has three main parts:

• Offense and Defense
• Special Teams
• Blocking and Tackling

Highlight Reel

Before I lay out all the details, here’s your quickstart guide to the Football Diet:

Offense & Defense. Every week you’re either on offense or on defense. During an offense week, you’re trying to lose one pound. During a defense week, you’re trying to not gain weight.

Special Teams. Every now and then, you need to punt. On Thanksgiving Day, I punt. I spend the whole day sitting down, eating and drinking whatever I want. Unlike offense and defense, which each last a week, a punt only happens for one day. Then it’s back to offense and defense.

Blocking & Tackling. Playing offense and defense is mostly about the mentality and motivation you bring to the game. And blocking and tackling is all about the fundamental skills you apply while playing offense and defense. This is where we talk about setting ourselves up for success by doing the basics right.

That’s the 2-minute highlight reel on the Football Diet. Now let's dig into the details, starting with the keys to your game plan, offense and defense.

Offense and Defense

In the Football Diet, you spend every week preparing for Sunday. And every Sunday you decide whether the coming week you will play offense or defense. You and your fans always know whether this is an offense week or a defense week.

Offense

I think of every offense week as a set of downs. If you’re on offense, your immediate goal is not a touch down—you just need to make 10 yards—enough to get a first down. For me, 1 pound is a first down. So when I’m on offense, my goal is to lose 1 pound by Sunday. If I weigh 168 on the Sunday that begins an offense week, I try to weigh 167 the following Sunday.

I weight myself every morning when I get out of bed. I’ve heard that this is a bad idea, because it can make you obsessive, and because your weight can fluctuate so much from day to day. But for me it helps, because it reminds me each day that I’m reaching for a very specific goal. If my goal for an offense week is 167, and on Thursday I’m at 169, I’m going to press extra hard to bring it down by Sunday. If I’m already at 167, then I have extra incentive to not pig out Thursday night—I’m almost there!

How do I lose that 1 pound? That’s where the blocking & tackling comes in, as described below. The important thing is that during an offense week, I’m actively trying to lose weight, but I’m not trying to make a touchdown—I’m not trying to lose 5 pounds in a week. If I can lose 1 pound each offense week, and if I play good defense, I’ll eventually make it to the end zone, my target weight. And I won’t have to starve myself to get there.

This is based on good behavioral science—you’re much more likely to be successful if you take small, achievable steps. People don’t typically give up on a goal when they’re making progress toward it—we give up when we “fail.” So with the Football Diet, you give yourself a goal that requires some effort and discipline, but is doable—it’s within reach. When you’re on offense, do whatever it takes to lose 1 pound by Sunday. That will move the chains, and you’ll be 10 yards (1 pound) closer to your goal.

Remember, every offensive play doesn’t gain yardage. Sometimes your quarterback gets sacked or your running back gets caught behind the line of scrimmage. So if you have a rough day during an offense week, just figure out how to make up the yardage—an extra trip to the gym? Salad for supper? It’s an offense week, so you have 7 days to move the chains.

Defense

Think of the best football team of all time, playing their best game of the season. Were they on offense the entire game? No. They won because they played great offense and they played great defense. If we try to play offense all the time, we’re setting ourselves up for failure. And failure leads to dropping the whole game. So the Football Diet mixes offense and defense. I don’t necessarily alternate back and forth from one week to another, but I make a conscious choice each week—will this be an offense week or a defense week?

If it’s a defense week, you’re not trying to lose weight. Instead, you’re trying trying to not gain weight--you’re playing defense, trying to keep the other side from making a first down. On a defense week, your goal is to end the week at the same weight you started. If you weigh 167 on the Sunday of a defense week, your goal is to weigh 167 on the following Sunday. Yes! This is a diet where you aren’t always trying to lose weight.

I weigh myself every day on defense weeks too. This gives me a gauge for how hard I need to push or how easy I can take things and still end up the same weight the following Sunday.

Motivational Locker Room Speech

Motivation doesn’t win games without blocking and tackling. But without motivation, none of us will get far. What the offense/defense approach does is help you regulate just how much motivation you need over the long haul.

Nobody can sustain willpower and discipline 24 hours a day for weeks or months or years. By switching between offense and defense, you can give yourself a break, not having to push yourself to constantly lose weight for months on end. It lets you build a rhythm of intensity. The really cool part is that even when you’re on defense, you haven’t “gone off” your diet. You’re still paying attention, still in the game.

Before I invented the Football Diet, I was either on offense, or I was letting the other team score touchdowns. Once I screwed up on my plan, I would just keep eating and drinking too much, and I’d stop exercising too. It took a major effort to get back on the plan. But with the Football Diet, I can take a break from the constant pressure to lose weight, without abandoning my overall game plan.

I think defense is the key to the Football Diet. Not only does it let you give yourself a break without losing ground, playing defense gives you the practice you’ll need once you’ve reached your target weight, so that you can attain your real ultimate goal, which is to maintain your target weight.

This is really important. Virtually any diet can help you lose weight. The trick is to stay at a healthy weight over the long haul. If your diet plan only teaches you to aggressively lose weight, it won’t work for you once you reach your target weight. With the Football Diet, you’re actually practicing sustainable behaviors every time you’re on defense.

I’ll leave it to you to decide which weeks are offense and which are defense. The important thing is to decide by Sunday, and then stick with either offense or defense for the whole week. You can’t win the game, or the week, without a game plan.

Special Teams

Offense and defense are the keys to the Football Diet, but there’s more!

Punting

No football team can succeed if it refuses to ever give the ball away. Sometimes we have to punt. And I refuse to accept any game plan that won’t let me eat cake and ice cream on my birthday. On Thanksgiving Day, on my birthday, sometimes while on vacation, I punt. In the Football Diet, punting means I eat and drink whatever I want, as much as I want, and I don’t exercise unless I feel like it.

Here are the keys to punting in the Football Diet:

1. You have to plan it in advance (otherwise it’s a fumble—see below)
2. It lasts only one day. Football teams don’t punt 2 plays in a row, and I don’t pig out 2 days in a row.
3. After punting, go right back to offense or defense the next day.

Fumbles

Nobody’s perfect. We all drop the ball sometimes. Maybe it’s an offense week and I skip exercising 2 days in a row, or it’s a defense week and I accidentally eat an entire pint of Ben & Jerry’s New York Super Fudge Chunk. Just like in football, here’s the key to dealing with fumbles:

• It happens. Get over it. Don’t beat yourself up.
• Get right back into whatever your game plan was for the week—offense or defense.

Ball Control: If you notice you’re about to fumble,

• The most important thing is to notice you’re at risk, so you can protect the ball.
• Ask yourself if you’re really, really going to enjoy this fumble. Why turn over the ball for a third helping of a casserole you don’t even like?
• If you notice early enough, ask your fans for help. The sooner you can do this, the better (see “hot & cold” below). I’ll sometimes say to my family, “OMG, they have a chocolate fountain over there. Please help me eat only one banana’s worth from the fountain.”

End zone Dance

The main thing about the Football Diet is to focus on one day, or at the most one week, at a time. Lose a pound this week. Don’t gain a pound this week. It’s all about making first downs, moving the chains, rather than scoring a touchdown. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have a bigger goal. Just don’t get too wrapped up in it, and don’t measure yourself against it all the time.

With the Football Diet, you aren’t going to score by throwing an 80 yard touchdown pass. You’re going to work you way down the field one play at a time and then score with a run straight up the middle.

But when you do finally score a touchdown, when you reach a big milestone, do a fabulous dance in the end zone. Celebrate! Here are the keys to a great end zone dance in the Football Diet:

1. Celebrate with your fans!
2. Plan it in advance, because you want a great dance, but…
3. Don’t draw a penalty for overdoing it.

The best end zone dance will be a great celebration with your friends that doesn’t set you back and take points off the board. As you approach your goal, think about something you love to do, with others, that’s healthy. A great concert, 50 yard-line seats at the next game, a weekend trip, an entire weekend without doing anything useful! Plan it in advance so you have extra motivation to meet your goal, and so you don’t pick an end zone dance that will draw a penalty because you ate too much and went right back over your target weight.

The Extra Point

When I reached my target weight, I was so pleased with myself, and so confident, that I did 3 more weeks of offense. This lowered my weight just a little bit more, to the point where now I can fumble, gain a pound or two, and still stay in my weight range. Yes! Of course, that brings us to…

Blocking & Tackling

Let’s face it—football is mostly a matter of running around knocking each other over. Whoever does that better is likely to win. We call it “blocking and tackling,” and it’s the unglamorous part of the game of football and the Football Diet. So what does good blocking and tackling look like when you’re doing the Football Diet? Here are the techniques that have been most helpful to me:

Build on your strengths

Don’t make this all about depriving yourself of things you like. Make a list of healthy things you enjoy doing and eating, and do them more often—especially on offense weeks. For me, the list includes things like these:

• Dancing
• Walking and hiking
• Fresh fruit
• Ice tea
• Kombucha (check it out!)

It’s easier to increase healthy things you enjoy than to decrease unhealthy things you enjoy. So be sure to:

1.  Know the healthy things you love
2. Do them more
3. When you’re doing them, notice how much you enjoy them!

Know your weaknesses

Even great football teams have weaknesses. But they know their own weaknesses and take great care to not let those weaknesses bring them down. Think about your weaknesses and be ready to bring in a free safety or an extra blocker.

Food & Drink

When it comes to weight management weaknesses, I know where to look. For me, it’s all about ice cream, beer, and third helpings. If I can stop eating pints of Ben & Jerry’s, limit the number of days when I drink beer, and stop eating when I’m full, I have a fighting chance of at least playing solid defense.

Pay attention to your own habits, and notice which items you tend to overdo. Just noticing this will go a long way when you find yourself at Thursday of an offense week and you’re a little heavier than you were at the start of the week.

Emotional Triggers

Sometimes I eat because I’m hungry. Sometimes I eat because I had a hard day. Sometimes I tell myself I deserve a 3^rd beer, a 3^rd helping, and an extra scoop of ice cream, even though it’s going to make me feel like crap afterwards. I’m trying to get better at noticing when I tell myself I deserve it and will feel better, because the truth is I also deserve to be healthy, and unhealthy eating doesn’t actually make me feel better.

Situations

Again, notice the situations where you’re more likely to fumble the ball. Come up with strategies to protect the ball in these situations.

There are two situations I’ve learned to watch out for. The first is when I come home from work. I love to walk through the door, open the refridgeerator door, and pop open a beer. What I’ve found is that if I can make it past the first few minutes after coming home, the frantic desire for a beer declines dramatically. If I have a pitcher of ice tea ready in the fridge, and I pour myself a glass of ice tea when I get home, I’m not nearly so tempted by the beer.

The second situation, before which I am almost helpless, is free food. I don’t know why, but it’s very very hard for me to pass up free food. This includes anything where I don’t have to pay extra for more helpings, like at a buffet. To tell the truth, I haven’t figured out how to deal with this one yet. I rely on will power, and my will power is usually no match for free food, even on an offense week. Sigh…

Momentum

Get the Ball Moving

This may have no base in science, and maybe it’s just me, but it seems that when I first start trying to lose weight, it takes several weeks before anything happens, even if I’m being really good about sticking to my plan. But once I get the weight moving, it’s easier to keep it moving. I think my body gets set at a particular weight, high or low, and holds it there. I’ve noticed the same thing when I’ve maintained a healthy weight for several months—I can pig out for several days in a row with little or no effect on my weight.

So the key is to keep working at it the first few weeks when nothing seems to be happening. And then, when the weight starts to move, keep going with some more offense weeks to keep the momentum rolling.

I’ve read that some people lose the first few pounds of “water weight” pretty easily and then have trouble moving past that. And there’s also something about the weight not moving when I start exercising, because I’m converting body fat to muscle. These reinforce my point—if your weight isn’t moving, keep believing that if you stick with the plan, if you keep blocking and tackling well, good things will happen. And when they do, take advantage of the swing in momentum by stringing together several offense weeks in a row.

Hot & Cold Times

There are some times when I am very committed to more healthy behaviors. These are called “cold” times, because my passion to stuff myself is low:

• While brushing my teeth after breakfast
• After eating and drinking way too much and feeling sick to my stomach

And here are the “hot” times when my passion to consume calories is high and I am least committed to healthy behaviors:

• When I first get home from work
• When free lunch is served at a meeting, especially if there are chocolate chip cookies
• At about 9:00 p.m. when I get a craving for ice cream, or 10:00 when I get a craving for a glass of scotch or Bailey’s Irish Cream

So how do we make use of this? I try to take advantage of the cold times to manipulate my behavior in the hot times. Ask yourself, “if I were a controlling, manipulative taskmaster, how would I make sure someone in my house didn’t have a beer when they got home? How would I make sure they didn’t eat ice cream in the evening?” The easy answer—keep the treats out of the house.

So if I have an attack of conscience while brushing my teeth in the morning, because I had 2 beers when I got home from work yesterday and my weight went in the wrong direction, I can walk into the kitchen and take the rest of the beer out of the fridge. I hate warm beer, so I’m unlikely to have beer when I get home later that day. Even moving the beer to a fridge in the garage can help—anything to make it less desirable and less convenient during the “hot” times.

Fans can help too. My wife always knows if I’m on offense or defense. When I’m on offense, during a cold time, I ask her not to buy any ice cream that week. I’ve even been known to ask my wife and kid to eat my favorite ice cream before I get to it. When do I have the fortitude to make this request? During my cold times. I ask them while brushing my teeth in the morning. Or if I’ve just pigged out and eaten half of the ice cream and I’m feeling guilty and stuffed, I ask them to finish it off as soon as they can so there will be none left for me.

Working out

It turns out football players work out, and that is somehow related to how big and strong they are. Somewhere, sometime, we each have to figure out a way to get some exercise. This is likely even more important than all the stuff we do around eating. An offense week isn’t all about healthy eating—it’s also about getting as much exercise as possible. And a defense week is very much about keeping up the exercise routine, even if you’re not hitting the exercise quite as hard as you would on an offense week.

The three keys to regular exercise:

1. Pick something you enjoy
2. Do it at the same time every day
3. Make it as easy as possible to do it

I have an old stationary bike that I found out by the street one day. It’s so old it doesn’t even plug into anything. But I’ve set up a music stand in front of it to hold my iPad, and I watch TV shows while I ride—ideally TV shows with chase scenes to help me pedal faster.

I ride the stationary bike every morning after breakfast. It’s in my bedroom. My bike shoes are right next to it. I don’t need to go anywhere, pay anything, or think. It’s easy, and it gives me an excuse to watch stupid TV shows without actually wasting time. I pick shows that run about 45 minutes.

On defense weeks, I ride 5 days a week. On offense weeks, I ride every day, and if I’m really pushing it, I’ll ride once in the morning and once in the evening, and I might watch longer TV shows to extend the ride. This is a lot, and I’m not saying you need to do what I do. But I am saying you’ll greatly increase your change of success if you make it easy for yourself to do somethine you enjoy at the same time every day. First establish the basic routine, then boost it when you’re on offense.

Away Games

All athletes have a harder time playing away games than playing at home, so they need to make a special effort to compensate. It’s the same with the Football Diet. Here’s the key: even when I’m away from home, I stick with offense or defense.

I will often choose to go on defense if I know I’ll be travelling that week. Knowing I’m on defense, I don’t have to fret if my healthy eating choices are limited for a given meal or my schedule keeps me from exercising for a day or two. But I’m still on defense. So I still look for healthy choices at the restaurant. I don’t stuff myself with airplane snacks. I still pick a place to stay that has a fitness center where I can work out. And if that doesn’t work, I make sure to take a good walk each day.

Some of my most satisfying Football Diet experiences have come when I was on offense while travelling. It’s amazing what you can do if you set your mind to it for a limited, focused period of time. I remember one week when I was traveling for work while on offense. I got up early and went to the hotel’s fitness center. For breakfast in the hotel restaurant, I actually had granola and low-fat yoghurt, which I never do at a restaurant, because I’d rather have eggs benedict. But since I was on offense, I had granola and yoghurt and felt great (and incredibly smug). All day long, I walked up stairs instead of taking escalators, and drank water instead of soda. And then in the evening I went back to the fitness center and watched an entire James Bond movie while biking.

Could I do that all the time? No. I don’t have the will power to sustain that kind of thing. But for 3 days in the middle of an offense week? Yes!

Get the fans into the game

Why are football teams more successful at home than when out of town? It’s partly because they’re sleeping at home, etc. But it’s largely about the fans. The fans keep them motivated, cheer them on when they’re doing well, remind them (sometimes not so subtly) when they’re not performing well, and generally help them feel supported.

Fans are a big part of the Football Diet.

Recruit at least 2 fans.

This could be a family member, friend, co-worker, or all of your 537 FaceBook friends—anyone you see fairly regularly. The key to a successful fan is what you do with them right from the start: you tell them that you’re going on the Football Diet, and you are going to try to lose one pound this week. Believe it or not, telling them your intention is huge. This is like Babe Ruth pointing at center field before hitting a home run (sorry for the intrusion of baseball).

By declaring your intention, you do 2 critical things:

1. You publicly commit yourself to your goal. The behavioral scientists have shown that this is a huge deal that makes it much more likely you’ll do what you want to do.
2. You recruit supporters. Your fans can help, and not just by nagging you. If they know what you’re doing, they can…

•  Eat healthy things around you

• Stop offering you cookies

• Ask you how it’s going

• Eat the ice cream in the freezer so it’s gone when your 9:00 p.m. craving hits

• Join your team! How cool would it be to have 2, or even 11, people all on offense or defense at the same time?!

Take this seriously. What football team would want to perform with no fans? Why should you try to do this alone?

Weight Watcher Book

As I said at the beginning, I’m making a lot of this stuff up—I haven’t actually researched any of it thoroughly. I’ve read a good bit about behavior change theory and practice, but I haven’t read any diet books. Except one that I got free (I’m such a sucker for free stuff). But I really liked that one weight loss book I read, and I recommend it as a great resource with very practical advice about blocking and tackling. It’s by David Kirchhoff, the President and CEO of WeightWatchers: Weight Loss Boss. Check it out.

Post-game Wrap-up

And there you have it! The Football Diet. Here’s what you need to remember about what’s worked for me:

1. Every week you choose to either be on offense or defense.
2. In an offense week, try to lose 1 pound.
3. In a defense week, try not to gain any weight.
4. For special occasions, punt. Eat and drink what you want, but only for one day.
5. Get good at blocking and tackling. Gimmicks and metaphors aside, if you eat healthy foods in moderation and get good exercise, you’re going to be healthier and feel better.

Have fun! And let me know how it goes.

Tim Kieschnick 10/18/2015

Exercises in PowerPoint Style

PowerPoint gets trashed in conversations all over the globe, and with good reason. As Edward Tufte has explained in The Cognitive Style of PowerPoint and Peter Norvig masterfully illustrated in The Gettysburg PowerPoint Presentation, PowerPoint has led to innumerable disastrous presentations.

But not all PowerPoint presentations are disastrous. The best PowerPoint decks incorporate fundamental principles of communication and visual design. The best PowerPoint decks actually enhance communication, and they do so through a wide variety of communication styles.

It's this wide variety of communication styles that led me to make a connection between PowerPoint and Raymond Queneaus' classic work, Exercises in Style, first published in  French in 1947. In Exercises in Style, Queneau tells a very simple, almost inane story. And then he retells the same story 99 times in 99 different styles with labels like metaphorically, hesitation, precision, animism, official letter, blurb, noble, speaking personally, and of course polyptotes.

I've embarked on a parallel project, using PowerPoint. This morning I uploaded 4 PowerPoint decks to SlideShare. Each uses a different style to communicate about the same fictitious project. I plan to add new styles on more or less a weekly basis, starting with styles that can be effective when matched with the right circumstances. The four I created and uploaded this morning are:

• Bare Outline. This is the simple, boring shell that the rest of the styles are based on.
• SBAR. This one uses a format created in the patient safety world to succinctly communicate about patients. In this case, I use the SBAR format to describe a software development project.
• Butterfield Powerbite. This is based on the scheme I use most frequently to organize everything from presentations to short emails to announcements at staff meetings. Dick Butterfield taught me the scheme.
• Inspirational. This one addresses the same fictional project from the point of view of a senior leader inspiring her workforce to rise to a challenge.

I'm having fun with this so far. Check it out and let me know what you think.

Managing Through Influence

I can accomplish very little on my own. So I put a lot of time into influencing other people. This can be especially difficult in a large company, where I need to influence people above me in the hierarchy, people in other departments, and often people I've never even met. Here are some ways I manage through influence, with special thanks to Creative Good Council 1 for their help expanding and fleshing out the list. 

Think of this as 20 tips for developing the art of influence.

As I walk through the list, I'm assuming you have a "target"--a specific individual whose behavior you want to change. I'll group the tips into 3 principles:

1. Work the relationships
2. Motivate and inspire
3. Be practical

Work the Relationships

I can sometimes influence someone with whom I do not have a strong relationship, but it's a steep hill to climb. I always start by understanding, building, and leveraging relationships.

• Align around something shared. Find something in common with your target. It could be anything from shared values (e.g., we both care deeply about the future of our organization), shared goals (e.g., we both want to meet the June 1stdeadline), or even something completely unrelated to work (e.g., we both love Louis Armstrong's early recordings). The more specific you can get, the better.

• Understand the web of relationships. Everyone is influenced by someone else. Find out who your target trusts, obeys, follows, or listens to. If you can't directly influence your partner, find the path between you and your target. If your target is Alice, and Alice reports to Bernice, you need to influence Bernice. Maybe you have no influence over Bernice, but Bernice trusts Carlos, and Carlos has great respect for you. Once you've figured out this path of influence, you can get Carlos to talk to Bernice to give Alice an assignment.

• Identify the saboteurs; defuse the bombs. Take some time to think through who may oppose your work and how they might wreak havoc. Is there someone who will tell your target not to listen to you? Is there someone in a position to make your target's efforts ineffectual? If you don't know, ask someone who does know. Then make an explicit plan for how to neutralize the negative impact. By far the most powerful way to do this is to convert your detractor into your champion. Another tried and true method is to keep the detractor busy with something else--find a way to get them focused on some work that keeps them out of your way. This doesn't have to be cynical or Machiavellian--many people can serve their customers and company better by staying focused on things they can actually accomplish rather than sabotaging the work you're trying to accomplish.